What if you could expand your circle of support?
I wasn't always great at asking for support, but...
...that all changed when I approached my forties. Life changes—like leaving a 20+ year corporate career, starting a heart-centered business (not something that my undergraduate or graduate degrees really addressed), caregiving and grieving a ton of losses, sorting out a few moves in between, then trying to mitigate the isolation during a pandemic—all prompted me to...
....gain more mastery with this skill and reach out to a variety of individuals.
Rather than looking solely at credentials, I noticed signs.
Rather than focusing on resisting the frustrating physical symptoms that showed up along the journey, I got curious and explored a variety of unconventional healing modalities (many leading me to become a provider myself).
So much of what I learned was how to tune into my body to see what resonated with me energetically, and to ask the universe to light the way. Sometimes I ignored my body's signals, but then I learned from those experiences and continued to hone my ability to trust my internal navigation systems.
If you could expand your circle of support, who would you invite into your space? What does the "right" type of support look like to you?
I was recently asked about the difference between coaching and psychotherapy, and where my work fit in.
My default response was the one that I learned, eleven years ago, during my life coach training: therapists tend to work with the past, while coaches tend to be more future-oriented.
As the words left my mouth, they didn't feel quite right. While generally true, if I had had a chance to elaborate, I would have shared more about what I learned, specifically how a coach supports their clients through the four phases of the change cycle (as referenced in Martha Beck's book, Finding Your North Star). From the time a client reaches out for support—typically after a crisis, opportunity, or series of internal shifts that make it difficult to maintain an old identity—they'll find themselves in:
This process is not linear. For example, a therapist, or coach, may be called upon when the client starts to implement their plans (Square Three) and a variety of limiting beliefs and dense emotions arise—prompting the need for the container of Square One where the energy to be released in a safe way.
Therapists are typically known to focus their time in Square One, and more and more are expanding their skillset to include parts work and somatic therapies that address trauma patterns in the body, as well as mindfulness practices, and coaching, to support a client in moving forward with their intentions. For example, one of the first therapists I went to taught me how to meditate, which offered the energetic support I needed to handle some stressful situations as I navigated my way through the cycle of change.
Likewise, I know many coaches (including myself) who have received additional certifications and training that offer enhanced support during Square One. For example, while I offer general life coaching, I also help clients bring their nervous system into a state of connection through energy healing and somatic therapies (e.g., Reiki, Tension Release Exercises -TRE) so their fears won't have as much influence over them, and they can see a truer list of choices available. In addition, in the pursuit of healing my own chronic fatigue and back pain, I picked up a variety of modalities that facilitate healing the protective patterns that have kept me disconnected and contracted (e.g. Mind-body coaching, parts work, TRE, shamanic healing).
Given these changes, it's clear that therapists and coaches alike are seeing a greater need to address the mind-body-spirit-heart connection, so the best question you can ask yourself is what kind of support do you need, then look at the following variables to determine the "right" type of support for you:
Asking these questions may seem like a no-brainer; however, they can be neglected when we get busy, or when when we think that we don't have options, so I invite you to take a moment and...
...ask yourself, what would it feel like if I was fully supported? What actions might I take from that feeling state?
Once you start clarifying, and asking for, what you need and desire, you just might find that the universe connects you with the resources available!
Thank you for being here. If you'd like to gain clarity on the "right" type of support for your needs, please feel free to schedule a free clarity call where we can review what you want to bring into your life, what may be getting in the way, what resources may be most helpful, and whether we are a fit (no obligation to invest)
As owner of Whole-Self Wisdom Coaching, Kelly is passionate about supporting empaths who want to expand their circle of support and experience relief from overwhelm, tension, and exhaustion. Whether it’s through private coaching/facilitating energy healing, or facilitating groups/speaking engagements, she creates and holds a space for them to know the power they hold to free up their energy and create a life of connection, fulfillment, and joy.
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