"How could you not know what you want?"
Some might wonder how it's possible to lack such clarity, but what they don't realize is that for those of us who are so highly attuned to the needs of others, we often have parts of ourselves that believe it's not safe to turn inward and follow through on our own self-care. The result is that it can lead to confusion about where to focus your energy, keeping busy in areas that are not serving you, and withdrawing until you can recharge your batteries.
So, what do you need and want? What would be fun?
If this feels challenging to answer, you're not alone.
After I left 20+ years in corporate—where I was primarily focused on meeting others' expectations—I began asking myself, "What do I do now?"
Sometimes my ego would pop in and keep me focused on activities to get my coaching business off the ground. I believed I had "work" to do, so I typically didn't ask what would be fun.
The problem with this approach is that the lack of fun in my life made me more vulnerable to the spaces, faces and experiences that felt draining. I'd then need more time away to recharge my batteries—and that was no fun!
So how can you get clear on what you need and want so that your life-force energy can protect you from the denser energies around you?
I may not have been able to receive clear messages on what would be fun, but I did learn that it was easier to get a response if I asked what would bring me some stress relief—and the first three steps below are all about relaxing your nervous system.
The next time you find that you have some time to yourself, check out the steps below:
Hopefully, the steps above can give you the space needed to start asking yourself what you need and want more regularly. As empaths we not only need this alone time to gain clarity on what we need to care for ourselves and what would bring us joy, but we also need this space to recharge our batteries/build up our life-force energy. When we do this, we create the conditions for our bodies to heal, to flow with our life's purpose, and to connect with those who support our most expansive dreams.